Friday, November 3, 2017

Self-Control


“It’s silly to try to escape other people’s faults. They are inescapable. Just try to escape your own”
-Marcus Aurelius

“Wow…How can they do this to me?”

“I’ve done so much for them.”

“They always use me.”

This scenario occurs time after time throughout our lives. Sometimes we’ve taught people how to treat us…sometimes people are selfish and lazy.

Theses no doubt that it’s frustrating, but how much time do you allow other people to occupy your mind? How much time do you allow it to rob you of your time, family, and your peace of mind?

There is a line that Marcus Aurelius quotes from Euripides. “You shouldn’t give circumstances the power to rouse anger, for they don’t care at all.” 

What good does the negative emotion do anyway?

Isn’t it interesting how we rage at the things that are outside our control; traffic, employees, opinions, weather.
The world is going to take things from you; time, energy, and money.

It’s even going to take other people from you. It’s going to do this whether you like it or not. It leaves a little control for us; however, only a small piece of control remains in our hands.

Therefore it’s all up to us to decide what we choose to do with our emotions.

Hold on to them?

Or let them go?

So if we’re going to be stressed or upset about anything; if we’re going to criticize or critique; there is only one place to look. It’s in that very little space we have control over...Our thoughts

“Let go or be dragged” –Chines Proverb

Monday, October 16, 2017

The Diet ‘khor ba (Circling)

“I yearn to be free of pain, but rush straight to it; I long for happiness, but foolishly crush it like an enemy” -Shantideva

‘khor ba, in Tibetan means circling, This “circling” is an endless round of compulsive flight and fixation. We feel compelled to struggle ahead completely blinded by the emotional highs that bring us right back to where we first began.


Optimism- This time is different!!!

Excitement- This is new!!!

Thrill- I’m seeing changes!!!!!

Cockiness- Haters gonna hate!!!!

Euphoria- Look at me now!!!!!

Anxiety- How can I keep this up?

Denial- This can’t be happening?

Fear- What will they think?

Desperation- What will I do?

Panic- No!!!!

Capitulation- I quit

Despondency- There’s absolutely no hope

Depression- There’s nothing left

Hope relief- This sounds interesting?

Optimism- This time is different!!!


“If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get either comfort or truth, only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair.”
-C.S. Lewis

Friday, October 13, 2017

IT’S NOT THE FOOD!

Personal awareness precedes personal transformation

Tips:

Paradigm Shift - A fundamental change in approach or underlying assumptions

The reason we don’t change for long is because we have a set of beliefs that keep us who we are, not who we want to be

Things don’t change…we change


Traditional Method (externals)

What?

What can I do to lose weight?

How?

I’m going to restrict my food, and exercise more

Why?

I want to look better


Transformation Method (internals)

What?

What can I do to get what I want out of life?

How?

Personal awareness of thoughts

-Internals are primary (self-awareness)

- External are secondary (diets, exercise)

Why?

Because I’m important and I want to fully experience all of what life has to give.


“The day you decide you are more interested in being aware of your thoughts than you are in the thoughts themselves - that is the day you will find your way out” - Michael Singer






Tuesday, October 3, 2017

5 Steps to Euthymia

Eu.thy.mia (yu-thi-me-a) Energetic tranquility


Principle 1: Acknowledge
There is only one person you can change. You can’t change things outside of your control.

“You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”
― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

Be mindful…Recognize/accept the events in your life that you do and don’t have control over. If you focus on events outside of your control, you are wasting energy and fostering negative emotions. You can’t change events; you can only change your attitude towards them. Through this realization our mind can become impenetrable. So long as we can control our attitudes and reactions, we can very well never be negatively influenced by outside events.

Principle 2: Contentment
Don’t fall prey to modern society’s materialistic nature.

“Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.”
― Epictetus

You can't buy happiness. Tranquility is something that comes from within.

“There’s no dollar sign on a piece of mind” -The Zack Brown Band

Principle 3: Appreciation/Gratitude
Picture life without the people and possessions you have to truly appreciate them.

“Do not indulge in dreams of having what you have not, but reckon up the chief of the blessings you do possess, and then thankfully remember how you would crave for them if they were not yours.”     ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

We’ve realized now that wanting more leads to dissatisfaction…so how do we find happiness? The key lies in gratitude. We must appreciate all that we have and find joy in it. Ironically, in modern times, we already have everything we need.

Principle 4: Do the right thing
Be genuinely cheerful (passion) in all your interactions. “A man thus grounded must, whether he wills or not, necessarily be attended by constant cheerfulness and a joy that is deep and issues from deep within, since he finds delight in his own resources, and desires no joys greater than his inner joys.”― Seneca

Now, utilizing the stoic principles, our happiness can become independent of other factors; we should be cheerful all the time as stoics because we desire nothing more than human experience. If we desired more, we could allow ourselves to be disappointed. This doesn’t mean that stoics can’t enjoy the finer things in life…it just means we shouldn’t think of them as necessary for our happiness. Only providing goodness to the world through helping people and advancing society…something we each are able to do on a daily basis, can make us truly fulfilled.

Principle 5: Embody
Practicing your values beats preaching them.

“Don’t explain your philosophy. Embody it.”
― Epictetus

Stoicism must be practiced if you want to influence the world in a better way. Ask yourself regularly, “What’s the best way to act in this situation?” You should be looking to make choices based on your personal values to increase the greater good. Live by your moral code.

To Summarize: 

-Don’t get caught up in materialism

-Let your cheerful attitude (passion) elevate your colleagues to bring them up; perform work diligently and for the greater good

-Recognize and acknowledge what’s in and out of your control…don’t let things out of your control affect your joy

-When frustrating things happen, breathe, recognize your emotion and the reason for it, and let it pass. You can’t do anything about it anyway. All that you can control is your reaction, and all you can do is embody goodness and appreciate all you have, which is something I’m sure we’ll all find joy in.

"You are here for my benefit, though rumor paints you otherwise." And everything is turned to one's advantage when he greets a situation like this: You are the very thing I was looking for. Truly whatever arises in life is the right material to bring about your growth and the growth of those around you. This, in a word, is art -- and this art called "life" is a practice suitable to both men and gods. Everything contains some special purpose and a hidden blessing; what then could be strange or arduous when all of life is here to greet you like an old and faithful friend?”                                             -Marcus Aurelius

Monday, October 2, 2017

Amygdala Hijack (Social media)

Amygdala hijack is an immediate and disproportionate emotional response to the stimulus that has triggered it. This is because the stimulus is perceived as a threat to one’s emotional stability. This is produced because the amygdala prevents the activation of other areas of the brain, especially the cortex. It dominates the individual’s behavior. Also, it shuts off the area of the brain that makes us more rational, more human.

“Intense negative emotions absorb all of the individual’s attention, serving as an obstacle to any attempt to attend to other things.”
-Daniel Goleman

The frontal area of the cortex that is inhibited in the hijacking is the one responsible for our logical thinking and the planning out of our actions. Instead, the amygdala forms part of the most primitive parts of the brain. It’s the one that regulates our emotions. Thus, our logical thinking winds up subordinated to the command of our emotions.

“You have to keep in mind that impulses are the vehicle of emotions and the seed of every impulse is an expansive feeling that seeks to express itself through action.”
-Daniel Goleman

Thursday, September 21, 2017

Colon Cleansing

The latest research pertaining to cleansing is very promising!

If you are new to the “cleansing” scene, let me explain the typical method.

Most colon cleansing systems are 2 week programs that are designed to generate a progressive cleansing effect on our body in just 14 days.

During these 14 days, you follow a 3 phase cleansing process.

Phase 1: Preparation Phase - Prepares the colon for the cleanse.  This phase helps you go to the bathroom more often and kills off the deadly intestinal parasites.

Phase 2: The Cleansing Phase - The primary colon cleansing and detoxifying effectiveness revolves around the ingredients found in the phase 2 Cleansing and Detoxifying Powder. These ingredients merge together with the other super nutrients in the capsules to perform a proper cleansing process.

Sally, house wife and mother of 3 said,

“The powder swells up in your stomach and makes you feel full. I’m never hungry!”

Stomach fullness is very important when you’re fasting; however, the main purpose of the Cleansing and Detoxifying Powder is that it absorbs toxic buildup in your system and scrubs the wall of the colon by sweeping away the parasites that cause fat spackling, water retention, and disease. 

Phase 3: The Restoration Phase – The cleansing is complete and now ready to be restored. In this phase you reintroduce solids foods and continue to consume the included capsules. This process completes the cleanse by adding pro-biotics that introduce good bacteria back into your system.

You can now go back to your regular eating habits!

Latest Studies!

The latest cleansing research is very promising for anyone wanting to regain their health; however, it’s creating a conundrum for insurance companies and the health care industry. At this very moment, these big corporations are lobbying to prohibit this information leaking into the private sector due to the impact it could have on their businesses.

So what is it?

This highly anticipated system is specifically designed to have a progressive cleansing effect on your body in just 14 days. “Every study” has shown that this 3 phase process surpasses every diet and cleansing system on the market, due to its unique approach.

“As it turns out, it’s not about cleansing the body.  It’s about cleansing the mind!”

This controversial statement was made by Kelly Hitchcock (PFT, BCS, CBT, RBT, NLP, Dad, Gym Owner and me) during a training session at KH Fitness.

“For many years we look at the environment and food as the problem… But then I thought, 'Hey, I live in the same world!' It’s not that I eat different…it’s that I think different!”

With that simple thought about thinking about our thoughts, Hitchcock’s system was developed.

Cognitive Cleansing System

Phase 1: Preparation Phase (Awareness) - Prepares cognition for the cleanse. This phase helps you become aware of your flawed thoughts and identify their manifestations.

Phase 2: The Cleansing Phase (Acceptance) - The primary cognitive cleansing and detoxifying effectiveness revolves around the ingredients found in phase 2’s clarifying, evaluating, and acceptance process. These ingredients are teamed together with other psychological methods in this system which allows a proper cognitive cleansing and detoxifying.  The amount of self-esteem that swells up in your head provides complete and unadulterated liberation.

Barbra, secretary and mother of 2 said,

“My head felt full, yet empty. I was finally free from the diabolical constructs that imprisoned my thought process for so many years. This cleansing process has truly imbued me with purpose, freedom and compassion.” 

The true secret to this system is the clarity of perspective. This clear honest view absorbs the toxic buildup of cognitive fecal matter in your mind, while at the same time sweeps up the ANT’s (automatic negative thoughts).
And as an added bonus, it scrubs the neurological wall of arrogance, ignorance, and ill-discerned certitudes. 

Phase 3: The Restoration Phase (Contentment)  

The restorative phase in Eastern philosophy is called Nirvana. It’s a place of perfect peace and happiness. The individual’s desires and suffering are diminished into a world of cognitive clarity and acceptance.

The Cognitive Cleanse System has been referred to by many clients as an emancipation, liberation, self-realization and a release of false-self.

The part Hitchcock (me) said he was the most excited about with this new revolutionary system is it that it works for any age, gender (even those with a gender identity disorder), and race.

“This program is available to anyone, from kids to adults of any age that are compacted with brain spackling and toxic buildup of flawed thoughts… and the best part... it doesn’t cost you a thing!”

He/me continues…

“There is one catch; you have to be honest, intentional, and persistent. ‘The system is a process’… It’s really cool to see how it works; nothing changes; however, everything changes” 

He/I concluded…

“Unlike the colon cleanse, that goes right back to the “regular way”…with the cognitive cleanse system, you will never be able to look at things the regular way ever again!”

"Cleanse the mind and the body will follow!”



Friday, September 1, 2017

Three Fitness Truths

1. Physical looks are 80% nutrition and 20% exercise

2. Training specificity is extremely important in reaching your goals

-Cardio…You don’t increase caloric expenditure by shrinking your muscles

-Weight training (not circuit training)… Increases caloric expenditure, builds bone density, and aids in preventing injuries in other sports.

3. Your body is a reflection of how you think. The reason we don’t change for long is because we have a set of beliefs that keeps us where we are, not where we want to be

Changing your body is really about changing your mind

Thursday, August 31, 2017

Self-Esteem


Internal or external?

The man who desires attention, accolades, or wealth, then becomes enslaved by attention, accolades, or wealth.

The man who derives satisfaction from doing the right thing, becomes liberated by doing the right thing.

Never let your self-esteem be dependent on what others think.

Tuesday, August 8, 2017

“Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them”
                                                                                        ~ Epictetus

Perhaps (Buddhist parable)


Long ago in China there was an old farmer. With the same horse this old farmer had plowed and worked his land for many years when one day his horse suddenly ran away. As news of this reached his neighbors, the old farmer was met with sympathy. Neighbors visited throughout the day saying, "Wow, what bad luck to have your horse run away!"
The old farmer would think for a moment then say softly, "Perhaps..."

The next morning the old farmer awoke to find his horse had returned. With the horse were several wild horses who had apparently followed the horse home. Neighbors rejoiced, visiting the old farmer to express how happy they were for his sudden good fortune.
The old farmer would think for a moment then say softly, "Perhaps..."

Shortly after, the old farmer's son decided to try to ride one of the wild horses. Climbing on the horses back, the boy knocked the animal hard with his leg shouting for the horse to go. Startled, and probably a little annoyed, the horse flung the boy off its back. The old farmer's son broke his leg in the fall. Again, neighbors came to offer their sympathies for the misfortune, "What a horrible string of bad luck you're having!"
The old farmer would think for a moment then say softly, "Perhaps..."

The very next day, military officials came into the village with orders to draft young men into military service. As they went from home to home, rounding up young men, they made their way to the old farmer's house. Upon seeing the farmer's son with his broken leg they decided to move on, leaving the boy alone. Once again, neighbors came to share words of congratulations to the old farmer for the good fortune to have his son passed by.

And again, the old farmer would think for a moment then say softly, "Perhaps..."


 When the soul cries out, it is a sign that we have arrived at a necessary, mature stage of self-reflection. The secret is not to get stuck there dithering or wringing your hands, but to move forward by resolving to heal yourself. Philosophy asks us to move into courage. Its remedy is the unblinking excavation of the faulty and specious premises on which we base our lives and our personal identity.


                                                                                                                             ~ Epictetus

Saturday, August 5, 2017

Awake: Three Behavioral Truths


1) When the student is ready, the teacher will appear

-We cannot change what we refuse to confront

-Nothing changes; we change

-Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it

-What you do every day matters more than what you do every once in a while

-Learn to love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you



2) A motivated person will not be deterred from achieving their goals

-Don’t think of the cost.  Think of the value

-If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse

-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come

-You can learn great things from your mistakes when you aren’t busy denying them

-You don’t drown by falling in the water.  You drown by staying there

-Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together


3) Motivation can only be validated by the efforts made by the individual

-In life, if you don’t risk anything, you risk everything

-You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one

-You will never become who you want to be if you keep blaming everyone else for who you are

-If you don’t like something, change it.  If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.

-Growth demands a temporary surrender of security

Nothing changes; we change

Friday, August 4, 2017

Point of Reference


Thoughts emerge
Emotions illicit fear and pain
Critical egoic attachments
Creates distortions and disdain

In seeing who you’re not
A metamorphosis occurs
The truth has always been there
A little voice was never heard

Awareness of the “now”
Enlightenment to past thoughts
We see the point of reference
The manifestation of flawed ought’s

So love the little one
Who suffered years of pain
There was nothing the child could do
Liberation from self-shame

A whole new world emerges
Our childhood now lights the path
No need for affirmation
Self-esteem has come at last


“In the seeing of who you are not,
the recognition of who you are, emerges”
-Eckhart Tolle